5/13/24 Buying Kevin New Clothes for his Birthday

I am in a Mall. I am having my hair done or finishing some shopping. Kevin and his Muslim friend are waiting for me on a bench out in the center of the mall. They are sleeping. They are in their late teens. I wake them up. I say to Kevin, “It is your birthday. How about we go and you pick out some clothes for your birthday?” He is for it. The three of us walk to a clothes store. I talk with Kevin about his job. I suggest he finds one he wants to go to every day. Feeling: happy

If this were my dream I am in a mall finishing up with something. I have been “malled” by Kevin and Antonia who cut me off 7 months ago. Hair cut/styled- new way of thinking? I go out and wake up Kevin and his Muslim friend. Muslims seem to be pretty “rigid” with praying five times a day. However, the Muslim religion is “love” based. In waking life I pray that Kevin will “wake up” to what has happened to him. I feel he sees me and life through Antonia’s eyes and has lost who he is. It is Kevin’s birthday-new life/starting over? I suggest getting new clothes-a new identity. His friend comes along with us. Does he represent Antonia? Does she see how she is hurting Kevin? I suggest Kevin find a job where he wants to go to every day. Maybe this symbolizes doing things in his life that make him feel happy; thinking about himself more and what he needs, not just Antonia, Rowan and Markus.

5/14/24 Wanting to Go to this Pristine Beach

I can see this beautiful beach with clean sand and gentle waves either in my mind’s eye or for real. For some reason, I cannot cross the bridge to get to the beach by myself. I am with another woman ( very vague; I just sense her presence). I keep trying to talk this man in his 70’s into taking us to the beach. It takes a lot to talk him into it. He is sitting on a bench with another man, just chilling. The setting feels like an outdoor market with lots of people. It feels a bit trashed out. I see a young woman go up to a booth, lay out her wares and try to sell them. She is very focused.

The man says we have to eat first. We stop at a restaurant. The man is eating some kind of meat. It could be chunks of fish. We have to go over this long, ornate, deep red bridge to get to the beach. Somehow going to the beach is risky. I picture the beach being pristine, no people and nice and warm.

If this were my dream…I am in an atmosphere that is not settled/a busy kind of place. At home in waking life, I have a list of things to accomplish. I am like the young sales woman. She is driven, not in the moment/present. I am with my anima that needs more calm and peace. We go to a man who is laid back-my animus. He will take us over the bridge to the pristine beach. He is a part of me that I need right now. I can drive myself sometimes too much and don’t take time to smell the roses. He says we need to eat first. We need nourishment-a basic need and a good way to ground. The dream ends while we are eating. The beach is a bit risky. It is risky because it is a place to just be; not a place to accomplish things. I think my dreamer is telling me to slow down and to be in the moment more. I am in transition now (AZ to MN) which is symbolized by the bridge. I need to bring my laid back part into the picture more. The bridge being being red and decorative makes me think creativity is important and to get out and enjoy myself more.

Journal: Repetition At 5:30am

Our feline likes to wake me up at 4:00am. I clean his box, feed him and let him outside. Sometimes I go back to bed, sometimes I stay awake. This morning I stayed up and made my cup of chai. At 5:30 I heard Chris go into the bathroom, which is not an unusual time for him. What was odd was that I kept hearing him push the door, push the door, push the door. After about five minutes, I walked into the hallway and asked, “What are you doing?”

“I am trying to shut the door,” he said, although when I looked into his eyes he appeared unresponsive, un-alert. I tried to shut the door, and noticed that the lock was turned. “The lock is on,” I said, “that is why the door won’t close.” He didn’t seem to pay attention.

Instead of going back to bed, he headed into the kitchen to make his chai. That was a shock for me, as he never gets up before seven in the morning. There have been days he has slept until after nine. As his tea was cooking in the microwave, he grabbed his quiche out of the fridge to get that ready to eat. When his tea was done, I put it in the living room, next to his chair. He took a couple bites of the quiche and spent five minutes cleaning the sink. And he started to make another cup of chai! I said, “You already have your first cup of tea.”

He ate a little more quiche, then began working on the door of the garbage bin, trying to get it to “be quiet.” He kept opening and closing it, just like he did with the bathroom door. “It has always made noise, you can’t stop it,” I said.

Finally he finished his quiche and spent another five minutes cleaning the sink. That chore usually takes less than a minute. Everything this early morning was strangely repetitive. At first I wondered if this was just a reaction to his smaller amount of sleep. Next, I considered he may have had a silent stroke in the middle of the night. My last conjecture is sepsis. He has recurring urinary tract infections and they have caused sepsis, which create hallucinations.

Right now he appears back to normal, but he was a bit wacky yesterday morning too. He started walking up the stairs, looking for me at 8:00am. He thought it was 10:00am. Today it felt like he was in another world. Awake, but unconscious. That is what caused my fear.

Monday, May 27 (Memorial Day): This morning Chris slept until 9:00am. He seems completely back to normal. Cheerful. A mystery.

Tuesday, May 28: Yesterday Cullan felt strongly that we should go to HCMC and get some exams. We spent 6 hours at the ER. Chris had a CT scan, an X-ray, plus blood and urinary tract testing. Nothing was detected. No stroke, no infections. We are both still exhausted after that stressful experience. Events at the downtown Level 1 hospital are always wild. I do appreciate sharing space with people from very different cultural backgrounds. And the caregivers are phenomenal: every assistant, doctor and nurse was a woman.

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